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way to deal with regret from His Holiness the Dalai Lama

Howard Cutler: “Have there been situations in your life that you’ve regretted?” 

Dalai Lama: “Oh, yes. Now for instance there was one older monk who lived as a hermit. He used to come to see me to receive teachings, although I think he was actually more accomplished than I and came to me as a sort of formality. Anyway, he came to me one day and asked me about doing a certain high-level esoteric practice. I remarked in a casual way that this would be a difficult practice and perhaps would be better undertaken by someone who was younger, that traditionally it was a practice that should be started in one’s midteens. I later found out that the monk had killed himself in order to be reborn in a younger body to more effectively undertake the practice…” 

Surprised by this story, I remarked, “Oh, that’s terrible! That must have been hard on you when you heard…” The Dalai Lama nodded sadly. “How did you deal with that feeling of regret? How did you eventually get rid of it?” 

The Dalai Lama silently considered for quite a while before replying, “I didn’t get rid of it. It’s still there. But even though that feeling of regret is still there, it isn’t associated with a feeling of heaviness or a quality of pulling me back. It would not be helpful to anyone if I let that feeling of regret weigh me down, be simply a source of discouragement and depression with no purpose, or interfere with going on with my life to the best of my ability.” 

At that moment, in a very visceral way, I was struck once again by the very real possibility of a human being’s fully facing life’s tragedies and responding emotionally, even with deep regret, but without indulging in excessive guilt or self-contempt. The possibility of a human being’s wholly accepting herself or himself, complete with limitations, foibles, and lapses of judgment. The possibility of recognizing a bad situation for what it is and responding emotionally, but without overresponding. The Dalai Lama sincerely felt regret over the incident he described but carried his regret with dignity and grace. And while carrying this regret, he has not allowed it to weigh him down, choosing instead to move ahead and focus on helping others to the best of his ability. 

How to understand someone with an INTJ personality?

Instructions

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     INTJ personalities are
     Introverted
     iNtuitive
     Thinkers
     Judges

     Introverted does not necessarily mean shy and quite. INTJ’s can talk quite a bit - but not of anything of their personal nature. They keep private things entirely private

     iNtuitive - ability to immediately understand something. They are idea people who can see many different possibilities. They come up with uniquee solutions to complex problems.

     Thinkers - INTJ are very analytical. They are extremely busy (mentally) even when they are not doing anything. Their minds are always working on some theory or complex problem.

     Judge - if you ask an INTJ their opinion about something, do not be horrified when they are brutally honest. Honesty is what you will get - even if it isn’t really what you wanted.

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     INTJ personalities are not huggy feely people. Group hugs offend them and team building is often looked on as a waste of time. They can be extremely good team leaders although prefer to work behind the scenes - if there is a team leader they can respect.

     INTJ are extremely logical minded and rarely speak unless they know something to be a fact - unless they are throwing something out to get a reaction.

   • 3

     Often INTJ are mistaken as arrogant when they are actually self confident - they know what they know and, more importantly know what they do not know and keep their mouths shut about things they do not know.

   • 4

     If you do not make sense or are make a lot of small talk, it will be difficult to get along with a INTJ personality very well. INTJ’s have little patience for chit chat over nothing and they expect others to be as logical as they are. This said, they are EXTREMELY loyal people and are more than willing to work at a relationship even though they lack natural empathy that Feeling type people have

Tips & Warnings

• Be direct with a INTJ. They do not tolerate indirectness very well

• Don’t be huggy-feely with an INTJ. They prefer a simple thanks to a hug

• Online personality tests may be fun to take but they are rarely accurate

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